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~~~~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FORCED" * ~~~~~

 

 

Forced. The image that I chose above is the perfect image to best describe today's piece. Forced is what a lot of people that I know or even use to know have done in order to get married. It was forced for many reasons: "Security" over "Love", Running from their mistakes and not handling them like an adult, Running from Family or Ex-boyfriends or Ex-girlfriends whom they have hurt, Rushed into dating then jumped right into marriage after a very small amount of time, barely if at all even knowing the person. I mean, there is many more reasons. But you get the point.

 

Love should never be forced. It's something that comes organic. If it's not organic then it's not real. Its forced. But, a lot of dim wits that I know or use to know, seem to not understand this concept for the reasons that I mentioned above and the examples I will share with you here. I am thankful, I have something with my lady that is not forced in any sense of the word. It's real. What gets me is that people have actually tried to compare their forced relationships with our organic love. It's pathetic really. There is no comparison to us and what we share. If your in an organic relationship, you will totally understand what I mean here.

 

Now, I mentioned that there was some examples:

Example 1.

Okay, well take someone that I use to know for instance, this girl was dating someone that treated her like a queen, she treated him like he was a sixth rate non-priority in her life. He tried to get the focus on him for once and tested this girl to see if she would be supportive of him for a change. She was not, because now, it's no longer about her. He went through a very dark period in his life. She bolted instead of being a real woman and standing by her man as a real woman should. She bounced. Not long after that, she "met" someone from a good friend of hers then rushed into the dating with this "new" guy.

 

The forced couple dated for two years or less and have been married for four years. Now, the broken hearted man whom she left to go to her would be husband, came back from the heart break and fell in love with a real woman. That love is totally organic. Now, the organically in love, happy couple is on their way to marriage after a very long time of organic bliss together. The forced girl is unhappy in her marriage. They have a child together. The forced husband is got a wondering eye as well as the forced wife. The husband is finding out what the broken hearted guy already knew.

 

The forced husband is finding out now as we speak, that this girl whom he married, is not who she says she is. He is looking for any way out of the marriage so he can meet someone that is best suited for him that will treat him as an equal. This is what we call Forced.

 

Now, all but two people are organically in love and are on their way to a real marriage filled with real love and real joy. What about the forced married couple with child? They are both unhappy and realizing they shouldn't have forced anything. They are both looking for a way out, but now it's too deep to turn back. Now, that girl is going to be credited with breaking the heart of not only a second man but now the heart of her little child. It's sad and it's the first example of love being FORCED.

 

Example 2.

A girl who kept tabs on a guy that she had a crush on finally got in touch with the guy. They met and seemingly fell in love. They married and had a child once she left her country. The same place of origin as her husband, to move to what seemed to be greener pastures in a more opportunity-filled country. The end result? He is very unsupportive of her creative and artistic side. She is a born entertainer, model, make up artist, designer and more. She has become disenchanted with the marriage.

 

Also, she is hating the idea that she will never be happy again or anything more than a stay-at-home trapped mother & wife with an emotionally, unsupportive, non-physically-loving husband.

 

Her confidence is gone as he is never paying attention to her beauty, her body, her mind, her soul. Most of all, not paying attention to her kind heart. She is emotionally broken.

 

Talking to her, she is afraid to say the wrong thing to anyone for fear that her "security" is taken from her. But, she is trapped. She has found out that what options she has to break out on her own as a single independent mother in a country where she knows no one, is a lot harder than she thinks. All because her confidence in self is gone.

 

She is trying in vain to make her marriage work. It's unfortunately, not working. Her admirers wish that she finds the courage and strength to leave him and his family who are just as or more abusive to her as he is to her. It's a Forced marriage. FORCED is what this poor girl is finding out this "marriage" has become.

 

Example 3.

A mid 30's house wife dated her would be husband for three years. They have been married for the past 11 years. She has been expressing her unhappiness for some time now. They have one child with her expecting soon, child number two. Her unhappiness is not with having child two, which is a blessing to have a child of course, but it's in which the manner it was done. Her husband doesn't pay attention to her.

 

He sexes her with no passion or genuine love involved with the sex. He does so to make her believe that she is the one and only woman in his life. He does so because he suspects that she may want out. He is never home. She thinks he is always "working". She has turned a blind eye to the real truth. Having the second child forces her to stay trapped with him and his emotionally abusive parents. The same parents that have even left their first child alone when the child should have been looked after. The child is only 5 years old. Her husband says nothing. She tries to fight but realizes her husband cares for her less and less everyday.

 

She tries to laugh it all off but to no avail. She tries to cover her pain. But, she is reaching her breaking point. She is having his baby for a second time. But, she is finding out that the security from where she previously came from, is not worth the non-existent love they both share with one another. She is finding out that this is FORCED.

 

These are just some of the examples of people that I know that are finding out that love should never be forced. Organic is the only way. No matter what, love is also unconditional. No matter of race, color, creed or religion. Unconditional Love. And nothing but.

 

If you relate to these stories and are too, in an a forced relationship then please feel free to seek other options that gets you into a more positive light. Men and Women go through forced relationships for the reasons that I have listed above. But, you must understand that organic love is best. There will be ups and downs but it comes with the territory. If you have to force love, then your going to wind up like some of the women and even men that I have mentioned here today.

 

Ladies and Gentlemen, please take your time and find the right one for you. Never take security over love. It never works out. Just because you forced something that is now into years of being "together" doesn't mean that you are happy or can't start fresh. Finding someone that is organic is best. There you will find the courage and strength to have a strong protected heart. Find someone that is the same.

 

Two strong hearts are better than a FORCED one.

 

 





~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FAKE FRIENDS VS. REAL FRIENDS" * ~~

 

 

Fake Friends VS. Real Friends. All too many times throughout my life, I would say that I have the unfortunate displeasure of having fake friends. Thankfully, however, I have had more real friends that I can count. But, they too showed their true colors and are now considered fake friends.

 

Sometimes, you have to take a very long time in order to find out whom are your real friends and who are the fake friends. For example, I have grown up with a group of friends that are somewhat spilt down the middle as this: The friend that only wants to talk to you if they can talk only about themselves and it's all about them. Then the other group is: the friends that you can lean on a bit for help and cares to be apart of your life.

 

I have a lot of fake friends that are now kept very far away from me. I know for a fact that they don't know anything really about me. The sad part is that they never wanted to know or wanted to ask. They are unsupportive and the same people that I grew up with. They want your support but not willing to return the same gesture. Or you support them because your a good person and they just never give the same in return. Fake Friends? Absolutely!

 

Real Friends. I have a handful. Its the people that if I ever was in trouble or needed help with something, they are there without question. But, that handful is really small to be honest. Less than a handful to be more accurate. I have always prided myself on being a real friend. I always believed that if your around too much then you are taken for granted. But, always be there when it matters the most.

 

My point is that you have to pick and choose your friends carefully. You have to be good at noticing the tendencies of the people that you associate with. If you can live with those traits and still be close friends with someone where no one is getting hurt then you are good. If you have a Fake friend that is destructive with you or without you, that is the person that you must create distance. Either cut out of your life for good or have a very, very safe level of distance. They will bring you down with them if your too close.

 

From the experiences I have had with Friends, I have become more selective who I get close with. As a man, I have realized a long time ago, that I do not need to have a gang of friends around me in order to be a real friend or to stand on my own two feet as a man. I hope that you realize this too for all you fellow men and yes, women.

 

Respect is a huge thing for me as well. If you have respect for someone then that will most likely be mutual and off you go to see if the friendship lasts later on. Having friends is an investment. You have to simply ask yourself: "Do I want to invest in this person or not?", "Why or why not?" you make those decisions then as I said, you go from there.

 

Keep in mind, you want a REAL FRIEND. No FAKE FRIENDS allowed!





~~~~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "GUILTY CONSCIENCE" * ~~~~~

 

 

Guilty Conscience. It's rare that people pay attention to their conscience. Especially, when it comes down to simply thinking about what they have done wrong to someone. This could be a girlfriend or boyfriend cheating on their significant other, a girlfriend or boyfriend abandoning their significant other when they need you the most, or being physically, mentally, emotionally abusive towards their loved one. This of course goes the same way for married couples, common-in-law couples and not to mention with family, friends & co-workers.

 

The self admittance of feeling guilty towards the wrong doing of another person is rarely ever fixed between those individuals. That's where Karma comes into play. That is another story for another time. From experience, the wrong doer is guilty and reacts in any other way but to simply say "I am sorry, I fucked up, please forgive me".

 

Peoples egos play a factor in not allowing themselves to do the easy thing by simply apologizing and making things right. I personally, have experienced this from the end of both girlfriend relationships, friends and from family. It's not pretty folks. To this day, a lot of unresolved issues that I have with people have been left up in the air with me waiting for these pieces to come down to even pick up so that I can finally move forward. Saying "Sorry" is death to people's egos because it humanizes them, humbles them and they feel it puts a blemish on their conscience. "Oh god, now I have a negative on my so perfect (false) existence as a human being!".

 

No one ever wants to be wrong. No one ever wants to say sorry. I have experienced family my entire existence acting as if their shit doesn't stink. Fucked up behaviour and ignorance is bliss to them. Calling someone out on their mistakes is considered taboo. Your pushed further away instead of it being their wake up call. This is painful for someone like me. I have been hurt more times than I care to think about as it brings those negative feelings I have towards family. I have always tried to be the bigger man. Putting things aside and trying to talk to those individuals or let them hear a voice that they never wanted to listen to. In my "family" there is no accountability for all the wrong doing towards me. None at all. I have been hurt deeply my entire life by "family". It still goes on today. But, there is something lurking in those minds and lack of hearts from my "family": A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

I have been in relationships with girlfriends, one in particular before I found my true love that felt that everything was more important than I. Herself, her family, friends, religion and even distant friends. I remained supportive. I remained faithful. I remained loyal. I remained a trust worthy boyfriend. But, eventually, I realized that I was being treated like sixth rate trash.

 

I tried to move into a positive light where I was thinking about starting my own business and even dealing with deep personal issues that god forbid meant that the spotlight of our "relationship" was to be forced on me, thus taking away the attention off of her and her more important than I priorities. It was met with drama, stress, emotional abuse, abandonment and heartbreak for me.

 

I fought my way through it, but realized that years now after the fact, that no matter what, Karma will get that person if it hasn't already happened. But, Karma gets you when you ignore your conscience. It gets you when you deny that you are not guilty of hurting someone. It gets you. It does. One thing that ex-girlfriend will understand, is that you can't run from your mistakes forever. It will catch up to you. Your reactions to your wrong doing towards me is called: A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

Friends. I have had one in particular that once told me that he repented for the wrong doing he caused me. Then less than a year or so later, it started again and now that jerk off doesn't play a part in my life anymore period. I have had similar friends that have done wrong to me. Disrespectful comments, ignorant statements, turn their backs on me when I needed help. All things, that I know as a friend, I have never done to them. But, lets face it, one of two things creeps up on them now: Karma or: A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

The point is, that despite it sounding cliché, treat people as how you want to be treated. Your never too big to say simply, "I am sorry" or "I am sorry, how can we make this right?". Your never too old. Your never above your mistakes, they will catch up to you if you don't deal with them in an adult manner. I know this from experience. I have always looked for answers from the same individuals that have hurt me. But, I am going to see what their Karma does to them. I am seeing it now. I am happy and at peace with myself.

 

It is because I have in fact, thankfully, no GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

 



.................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FAKE PEOPLE" *..................

Fake People. I have been surrounded by many throughout my lifetime whether it was family, friends, girlfriends and co-workers. I have never been able to truly get away from them. I always wished there was someway that I could give them a good shot of my realness so that they could be as real as myself. Wishful thinking.

People are fake, coming to you in many forms. Some humor you with whatever it is you want to talk about or feel at that moment with no real genuine care or feeling towards your plight. They want you to feel only for them and not have to reciprocate to you in return when you need it. You help people always, then when you need help from them they are not there. And so on and so on. 

 

It is a funny quote above but it really isn't that funny when you think about it. I have never thought about killing anyone if they are fake to me. That's a bit extreme. If they hurt me emotionally or mentally really bad then I think of retaliating but not killing anyone. I however do always stay calm as much as possible.

 

Losing my cool is not a pretty site for anyone including me. The anger takes over and then you want to act on the harsh thoughts. Not me. I am calm. And, you have to be with people that are fake. Some are more fake than others. You just have to distance yourself from those that wish to be dealt with in a severe manner.



 

They then will become just nothing more but a distance forgettable memory. It ties back to Karma. It will get those that hurt you every time. So stand back and watch it happen. Fake people deserve what they get and have to answer to themselves eventually. You rarely if ever, find someone that truly humbles themselves for being fake to people. They become more fake and try to put on a mask of stone that their shit doesn't stink. They are the ones that get called out on their bullshit first.

 

Fake people for me, are just nothing more than a very distant forgettable memory. They have no place in my world and should never have had a place in my life to begin with. It's part of growing up. You only can rely on two people, yourself and well, yourself to weed out those fakers to your thrown of realness.

 

Take it from me, I have dealt with too many fake people, that I have lost count. I only surround myself with real people with genuine kindness in their hearts. People that come with no strings attached or drama. I have had my fair share of drama, I survived it and now can only deal with like minded people such as myself that are only here to spread real love and real happiness amongst those that we come in contact with.

All fakers, will be left behind. Let them stew in their own fake lives and misery, while you and I soar with the eagles carrying our realness as protective coats of armor.

Like the old saying goes: "Real recognizes real"... 



* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "UNSUPPORTIVE PEOPLE" *

Unsupportive People. In other words, unsupportive support. I am perfect example of this. I have had absolutely no support from previous girlfriends, family or friends. Again, one person stood in my corner when no one else would. I don't bullshit myself when it comes to people that were there during my struggles and those that were not. One person and no one else was there. Well, one person then one other: MYSELF. It came from within me to want to move forward with that one person in my corner but not everyone is that strong. 

 

Unfortunately, most people I know are not motivated to do more than the bare minimum example: get married, have kids, get a house and car - DONE. People don't realize that there is more to life than the bare minimum. More than what is expected of you. I am on my way to acquiring through hard work and a loving relationship those bare minimum actions but there is more to me than that. I have support now but before there was none from anyone. It hurt and it still hurts today, but I maintain my composure and move forward as best as possible. I just don't have any quit in me which is where it starts when it comes to motivation.

 

No, I have the idea to achieve those minimums but to also have a life plan. But, it's because I am motivated by much more. Example: my company, my own personal goals, and self satisfactions. Materialistic is not much of a factor for me at all. My partner and I have a tremendous understanding that a life plan has to be put into place so that there is no complacency in our life at any point. That's why it's lasted so long with us, there has never been complacency between us. It's always fresh and new but yet familiar and safe.

 

We and I in particular, have only ourselves to rely on when it comes to support. You can't force anyone to support you in everything that you do. One thing to get support in, is hard enough. Let alone, many things from people. I have let go of the idea that I will get that support from anyone, so I use it as a tool to turn that negativity into a positive for myself in moving forward. It has come to the point where I don't need anyone's support anymore period. If your not with me, then your against me. I have honestly always been that way. Again, unsupportive people has made me this way in this regard.



 

I have just described to you the best way to heal from unsupportive people. But, please do indulge me my dear reader a bit more here. You must realize that despite you being in a relationship whether it's dating, marriage or common law, that if your partner does not support you in your goals or ambitions than you must get away from that person if you see it continues to be negative from them. I know a few people that I was in relationships with that echoed this behaviour with me.

 

One girl said indirectly to me that I was not creative enough to do anything entrepreneurial. Another one said, me following my dreams was what killed our relationship. Even though, it was there bad treatment of me that killed those relationships.

 

I have rebounded and have fought my way back because, I saw sometime ago that those same girls are still just that: GIRLS. I have a real WOMAN. One that I support just the same as she has stuck by me and support me. She totally got what I was doing with my dreams {my company} and was with me every step of the way where no one else wanted to be. For that, amongst many reasons, I am honored to be her man and blessed for her to be my woman.

 

It's funny, those same people that are not supportive of you, always keep tabs on you and act like they don't know that you are succeeding in what they simply did not want to support you on. Then turn around and jump on your band wagon when your hot. Or they look to use your good name which you worked for, in order to get themselves over. I tell ya, everyone looks for the free ride from you, without wanting to support you from the start.

 

The best thing too, is that you can then have the power to transfer that negative energy to them where it rightfully belongs and then shut them out of your success. It makes them think twice about what they did wrong in not supporting you. That's how you recover. You prove them wrong and then if you choose, you can shove it in their face!

 

Works for me! 

.....................................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "LIAR" *.........................................

Liar. "Liar, Liar, pants on fire!". It was an old saying that I use to hear and use on the liars throughout my life. I luckily never became one of those people. I never liked when someone would lie to me. But then again, who would like someone lying to them? No one I would imagine. In particular, I have been lied to from everyone from my parent, my family, my girlfriends of past, my boys, my co-workers and frankly, it was getting to the point where I couldn't trust anyone or believe anyone. I am sure that this has happened to you. It's happened all too often to me. I have one person in my life that has never lied to me to this point. One person out of thousands of people that I have met? What does that tell you?

 

Well, it tells me a lot. That I needed to change my circle of people that were around me. But, you can't choose your relationships sometimes. So it's hard to avoid. I have kept it real with people and it from the most part, was not reciprocated. I have had people use religion as a means to say that they have repented for their poor behaviour towards me, just to turn back to that same person that did the damage in the first place. That's pretty shitty, to use religion as a means to want someone back in their life and then show their true colors again not long after. I have had people say that I pray that you find happiness in your life, when all they ever did was not try to change themselves so that I didn't have to find happiness elsewhere. I could go on but you get my point here. These are liars. The slickest of the slick. I kept it real and they didn't. What again, does that tell you?

 

 

That liars lead you to a path where you have to face "The Big Lie". That being, "does this person really care about me? If so, why lie?" You have to look at yourself first and ask, "Is this the big lie, that I am living? Why do I need these people around me when all they ever do is lie?". I went through this my entire life. I go through this now. But, I have gotten smarter with each passing thought of asking myself this. It's made me less tolerant of people's lies. I have been able to smell a lie, like a fart in church.

 

You can't get it passed me anymore. I have called people out on their lies after I finally stopped questioning myself and the big lie question answered itself. You can't change the people that feel the need to always lie. You can only change yourself and try your best to be less tolerant of these individuals as I have. Change is something that liars fear. Be that fear. Be real and don't lie. You will thank yourself later for it.

......................................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "KARMA" *.........................................

Karma. Karma, I have always said, is a muthafucka! No matter how hard you pray that it doesn't get you, it WILL get you. If you have done wrong someone, it will catch up to you. I know that I have always treated people as how I wanted to be treated. But, you can't help how people conduct themselves. If you are as aggressive as me, then you must be their immediate karma. The situation must be dealt with.

 

I have always believed in karma, for the amount of hurt and pain that I have felt from individuals that walked into my life with smiles but were looking for ways to hurt me while smiling to my face. My kindness has always been mistaken for weakness. My laid back demeanor has always made people think that I am a pushover. WRONG! I sit back and watch the loudest and most "aggressive" people make the dumbest mistakes.

 

They find out quickly that taking the tough guy/girl approach makes them look like a fool. It's funny actually. I am laid back because, when I move, I move in silence. When I move, I move with purpose, passion and with the idea that your mistakes is what I am trying to avoid. I am laid back for many reasons. One of them is, that I stand back when that lightening bolt of karma hits you. I am not getting struck by your karma. I always say, never stand in the way of someone's karma.

 

This is exactly what I made clear above. I have and will continue to watch karma strike the individuals that have hurt me and have tried to harm me. I take satisfaction in seeing this. I always say: "Good, you deserved it. You should have treated me or that person better!". It is truly a sight for sure.  

 

 

Need I say more? Yes, karma has no deadline. I have seen it strike those individuals that have hurt me and others like if God was slapping them across the face himself. I urge all of you, that if you don't want your karma to get you if you did wrong then please from the get go, treat people as you want to be treated. I know there is a boatload of individuals who are still getting their karma and some that are in the process of being anally raped by their karma as we speak. Sit back, and watch the drama unfold, and pray that it doesn't happen to you. Karma, as I said, is a muthafucka!

...* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" 1st Ever "Poison" Post: "BETRAYAL" *...

 

Betrayal. Throughout my life, I have been betrayed by many people. Some of which were and still are people that were and still are close to me. I trusted them, because, I felt that they were suppose to be individuals that were by relation had to be my closest confidants. I have been wrong with everyone that I have been betrayed by. Poor judgement on my part for believing what was being fed to me. That was my mistake. As the old saying goes: "Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you. Fool me three times? Not a chance!". Needless to say, I have not been fooled by these purveyors of betrayal a third time. Those people have been left by the wayside. I have no time for games. I have no time for people who were never genuine from the jump. Never again.

 

 

I had hope for many of those that have betrayed me. Hope is what kept me going, long after seeing those betrayers had vanished. I still extended my hand to them despite there being no reciprocation. I checked for people that could care less if I was even still breathing despite not doing anything wrong on my part. It hurt. It still hurts. The good ones get hurt and the bad ones get everything. A process that never sits well with me. I have never betrayed anyone. EVER. The reason? I just never wanted it to ever happen to me. My loyalty has always gotten me the short end of the stick. NEVER AGAIN.

 

 

It's betrayal that it ultimately comes down to. I gave everything that I had and then some to those purveyors of betrayal with no positive outcome. I searched for love and friendships in the wrong places from individuals who were insincere from the start. I found my own way. Blazed my own path holding on to the betrayal as a scar of war from each individual that betrayed me. Girlfriends, Family, Friends, Co-Workers. They all betrayed me.

It became hard for me to trust anyone after so much betrayal. My circle of loved ones is now very small. I have created my own environment and world, that if betrayal creeps it's ugly head again, it wouldn't be hard to tell this time where the betrayal comes from. I guess, it's true that you can never trust a snake not to bite you. I learned my lesson.