~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Passion" ~ "GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT. GO OUT AND FUCKING EARN IT." * ~~



 

 

Good Things Come To Those Who Wait. Go Out And Fucking Earn It. Need I say more? No, but I will because there is more to this statement than you see. So, let me explain here. Sit back and have a read.

 

I am a workaholic. I have always been that way especially when it comes to starting and finishing something. Passion has always been one of the main reasons why I am a workaholic. I do not just turn my attentions to something without passion and love for what I am doing. Not to mention, the knowledge and experience that I will gain in the process. Unfortunately, not enough people have these traits in order to go out and earn their keep. Let me further explain here.

 

Some people are born independent such as myself or your born either lazy, or middle of the road. Just doing enough work to get by then running for the first chance to take a vacation. Not me. I haven't had a vacation in over 16 years {Trinidad to visit family - August 1997}. We are in a society where everyone is looking to take the easy way out of working or working hard for that matter for anything. People that I know are only coasting not thriving. Not me.

 

In the 16 years of not having a vacation by really no choice of my own, I can point to many, many reasons including set backs and accomplishments in those years to show for the non-vacation time. I believe this is one reason that people are unhappy with themselves because they can't really point to anything as the reason of accomplishments before taking a vacation. Some cannot even after a vacation.

 

Don't get me wrong, there are many hard working people. I think there is more hard working people such as myself that deserve their time. I am a person that doesn't wait for good things to come to me. I am going out like the title goes, fucking earning it. I am putting in my work now and then some, to relax later. There is a method to my madness. So far, so good.

 

Then you have some people that I know that rushed into marriage to have "security" so that they can convince themselves that they worked hard and earned the right to have someone take care of them. The love is given up for security. There is no earning there with the people that I know whom clearly didn't earn that security.

 

My entire life, I have always been a provider. As I head to the next stage of my life soon, I am already more than prepared for my new life due to my past & present life experiences having worked for and earning my keep. That includes, taking care of my loved one. My loved one however, has those experiences as well. She has earned it. She has earned the right to have me take care of her for the rest of her life. She has taken care of me and does now. We take care of each other as it should be.

 

Bottom line is, go out and work hard. You will enjoy the fruits of your own labor when the time is right. I am lucky, I have my woman that deserves her down time more than anyone that I have ever met. We are one in the same. So, it makes it easier for me to take care of someone that has worked harder than anyone that I have ever known for her right to be pampered & cared for.

 

Hopefully, you are lucky enough to meet someone that also works hard, by simply going out and earning it. You and your partner will thank yourselves and each other for the joy that comes soon after. As for me and my lady, very soon, it's vacation time for us together! :)

 

Now, go out and earn your right to enjoy your life!

 

Because, needless to say, GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT. GO OUT AND FUCKING EARN IT.

 

 

 

 



~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FAKE FRIENDS VS. REAL FRIENDS" * ~~

 

 

Fake Friends VS. Real Friends. All too many times throughout my life, I would say that I have the unfortunate displeasure of having fake friends. Thankfully, however, I have had more real friends that I can count. But, they too showed their true colors and are now considered fake friends.

 

Sometimes, you have to take a very long time in order to find out whom are your real friends and who are the fake friends. For example, I have grown up with a group of friends that are somewhat spilt down the middle as this: The friend that only wants to talk to you if they can talk only about themselves and it's all about them. Then the other group is: the friends that you can lean on a bit for help and cares to be apart of your life.

 

I have a lot of fake friends that are now kept very far away from me. I know for a fact that they don't know anything really about me. The sad part is that they never wanted to know or wanted to ask. They are unsupportive and the same people that I grew up with. They want your support but not willing to return the same gesture. Or you support them because your a good person and they just never give the same in return. Fake Friends? Absolutely!

 

Real Friends. I have a handful. Its the people that if I ever was in trouble or needed help with something, they are there without question. But, that handful is really small to be honest. Less than a handful to be more accurate. I have always prided myself on being a real friend. I always believed that if your around too much then you are taken for granted. But, always be there when it matters the most.

 

My point is that you have to pick and choose your friends carefully. You have to be good at noticing the tendencies of the people that you associate with. If you can live with those traits and still be close friends with someone where no one is getting hurt then you are good. If you have a Fake friend that is destructive with you or without you, that is the person that you must create distance. Either cut out of your life for good or have a very, very safe level of distance. They will bring you down with them if your too close.

 

From the experiences I have had with Friends, I have become more selective who I get close with. As a man, I have realized a long time ago, that I do not need to have a gang of friends around me in order to be a real friend or to stand on my own two feet as a man. I hope that you realize this too for all you fellow men and yes, women.

 

Respect is a huge thing for me as well. If you have respect for someone then that will most likely be mutual and off you go to see if the friendship lasts later on. Having friends is an investment. You have to simply ask yourself: "Do I want to invest in this person or not?", "Why or why not?" you make those decisions then as I said, you go from there.

 

Keep in mind, you want a REAL FRIEND. No FAKE FRIENDS allowed!





~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Passion" ~ "JUST ONE LOOK" * ~~

 

 

Just One Look. It's that simple. It was one look that my woman gave me that sunk my heart and made me the most important man on the planet. It was one look that I gave her the first time that I saw her picture then met her in person that told me that I am going to marry her.

 

A lot of people take this one simple gesture for granted. Not me. It goes back to that old saying: "It was love at first sight". I finally had that and now the sky's too much of a limit for us. I must say, that the one look is all it really takes because it is really powerful.

 

Some people stare without even knowing it. But, that is just as powerful if the stare comes from someone that is attractive whether its a man staring at a sexy woman or a sexy woman staring at a man from across the room. The staring is considered a form of checking out whose in your eye sight. Don't get me wrong, there is creepy staring then there is the kind of easy-on-the-eye staring. Nonetheless, even staring starts with Just One Look.

 

Through your one look to someone that you find attractive, you send a message. You send either that aforementioned creepy message or an enticing message that your interested in getting to know that person or seeing more of them. You have to make sure that when you send that message, It gets through in a positive manner to your target. You might just be pleasantly surprised what reaction you get from that person. I know I was. And, still am :)

 

With someone that you know whether your dating, married, engaged, friends or whatever, your one look should always make that person smile. Blushing is even a better reaction that you should hope for as well.

 

Warmth and Love is what people secretly hope for in a look from their loved one. It goes a long way. Trust me, I know this thankfully, from experience. When you provide that one look for them and you wish it for yourself too, it's the connection that you both are establishing with that one simple warm look.

 

And, all it takes is JUST ONE LOOK. It's that simple.

 

 

 

 





~~~~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "GUILTY CONSCIENCE" * ~~~~~

 

 

Guilty Conscience. It's rare that people pay attention to their conscience. Especially, when it comes down to simply thinking about what they have done wrong to someone. This could be a girlfriend or boyfriend cheating on their significant other, a girlfriend or boyfriend abandoning their significant other when they need you the most, or being physically, mentally, emotionally abusive towards their loved one. This of course goes the same way for married couples, common-in-law couples and not to mention with family, friends & co-workers.

 

The self admittance of feeling guilty towards the wrong doing of another person is rarely ever fixed between those individuals. That's where Karma comes into play. That is another story for another time. From experience, the wrong doer is guilty and reacts in any other way but to simply say "I am sorry, I fucked up, please forgive me".

 

Peoples egos play a factor in not allowing themselves to do the easy thing by simply apologizing and making things right. I personally, have experienced this from the end of both girlfriend relationships, friends and from family. It's not pretty folks. To this day, a lot of unresolved issues that I have with people have been left up in the air with me waiting for these pieces to come down to even pick up so that I can finally move forward. Saying "Sorry" is death to people's egos because it humanizes them, humbles them and they feel it puts a blemish on their conscience. "Oh god, now I have a negative on my so perfect (false) existence as a human being!".

 

No one ever wants to be wrong. No one ever wants to say sorry. I have experienced family my entire existence acting as if their shit doesn't stink. Fucked up behaviour and ignorance is bliss to them. Calling someone out on their mistakes is considered taboo. Your pushed further away instead of it being their wake up call. This is painful for someone like me. I have been hurt more times than I care to think about as it brings those negative feelings I have towards family. I have always tried to be the bigger man. Putting things aside and trying to talk to those individuals or let them hear a voice that they never wanted to listen to. In my "family" there is no accountability for all the wrong doing towards me. None at all. I have been hurt deeply my entire life by "family". It still goes on today. But, there is something lurking in those minds and lack of hearts from my "family": A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

I have been in relationships with girlfriends, one in particular before I found my true love that felt that everything was more important than I. Herself, her family, friends, religion and even distant friends. I remained supportive. I remained faithful. I remained loyal. I remained a trust worthy boyfriend. But, eventually, I realized that I was being treated like sixth rate trash.

 

I tried to move into a positive light where I was thinking about starting my own business and even dealing with deep personal issues that god forbid meant that the spotlight of our "relationship" was to be forced on me, thus taking away the attention off of her and her more important than I priorities. It was met with drama, stress, emotional abuse, abandonment and heartbreak for me.

 

I fought my way through it, but realized that years now after the fact, that no matter what, Karma will get that person if it hasn't already happened. But, Karma gets you when you ignore your conscience. It gets you when you deny that you are not guilty of hurting someone. It gets you. It does. One thing that ex-girlfriend will understand, is that you can't run from your mistakes forever. It will catch up to you. Your reactions to your wrong doing towards me is called: A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

Friends. I have had one in particular that once told me that he repented for the wrong doing he caused me. Then less than a year or so later, it started again and now that jerk off doesn't play a part in my life anymore period. I have had similar friends that have done wrong to me. Disrespectful comments, ignorant statements, turn their backs on me when I needed help. All things, that I know as a friend, I have never done to them. But, lets face it, one of two things creeps up on them now: Karma or: A GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

The point is, that despite it sounding cliché, treat people as how you want to be treated. Your never too big to say simply, "I am sorry" or "I am sorry, how can we make this right?". Your never too old. Your never above your mistakes, they will catch up to you if you don't deal with them in an adult manner. I know this from experience. I have always looked for answers from the same individuals that have hurt me. But, I am going to see what their Karma does to them. I am seeing it now. I am happy and at peace with myself.

 

It is because I have in fact, thankfully, no GUILTY CONSCIENCE.

 

 



.......* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Passion" ~ "OBJECT OF DESIRE" *.......

 

"Appear to Be an Object of Desire

Make your targets hungry to possess you.  It will become a point of vanity for them to be the preferred object of your attention."

 

~ Robert Greene - "The Art of Seduction" ~



 

Object of Desire. For men, they turn themselves into Alpha Males. For women, they turn themselves into Alpha Females. The end result is the same: to be women or men's object of desire.

I must be honest. I personally have been an object of desire to one woman. Not sure of any others to be honest. Sometimes that desire can be just a passing feeling amongst men and women. It can be faked. I would hope that it would be more honest than anything. In any event, for most people it is genuine desire.
 

 

Being the object of desire, is something that I really am not that informed about since my knowledge of being an object of desire as I mentioned above is very limited. I feel that we are objects of desire with the way that we look physically, the way we dress, conduct ourselves, speak and think. If you are getting those extra stares that are coming your way, then your doing something right physically that's for sure.

If you are getting deep eyes looking at you during regular conversation with the person across from you whether it's a boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, wife and so on, then your doing something that is making that person look at you as someone whose not only physically attractive but mentally desirable. There is also spiritually desirable. A lot of people are the complete package where they possess all of these desires to the simple eye.

In enclosing, the object of desire to me is a person more than it's a place or thing. I always believe that there is someone for everyone. Stay humble if you are a desirable woman or man, as mentioned, the way that you conduct yourself is apart of what makes you desirable. Don't let it get to your head, or you will be then undesirable.

If you are being desired by someone, then smile and know that the person that desires you, may just be someone that you have always wanted all along and just didn't realize it until you paid attention. So, keep your eyes open people, you might just be someone's OBJECT OF DESIRE.

 



.................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FAKE PEOPLE" *..................

Fake People. I have been surrounded by many throughout my lifetime whether it was family, friends, girlfriends and co-workers. I have never been able to truly get away from them. I always wished there was someway that I could give them a good shot of my realness so that they could be as real as myself. Wishful thinking.

People are fake, coming to you in many forms. Some humor you with whatever it is you want to talk about or feel at that moment with no real genuine care or feeling towards your plight. They want you to feel only for them and not have to reciprocate to you in return when you need it. You help people always, then when you need help from them they are not there. And so on and so on. 

 

It is a funny quote above but it really isn't that funny when you think about it. I have never thought about killing anyone if they are fake to me. That's a bit extreme. If they hurt me emotionally or mentally really bad then I think of retaliating but not killing anyone. I however do always stay calm as much as possible.

 

Losing my cool is not a pretty site for anyone including me. The anger takes over and then you want to act on the harsh thoughts. Not me. I am calm. And, you have to be with people that are fake. Some are more fake than others. You just have to distance yourself from those that wish to be dealt with in a severe manner.



 

They then will become just nothing more but a distance forgettable memory. It ties back to Karma. It will get those that hurt you every time. So stand back and watch it happen. Fake people deserve what they get and have to answer to themselves eventually. You rarely if ever, find someone that truly humbles themselves for being fake to people. They become more fake and try to put on a mask of stone that their shit doesn't stink. They are the ones that get called out on their bullshit first.

 

Fake people for me, are just nothing more than a very distant forgettable memory. They have no place in my world and should never have had a place in my life to begin with. It's part of growing up. You only can rely on two people, yourself and well, yourself to weed out those fakers to your thrown of realness.

 

Take it from me, I have dealt with too many fake people, that I have lost count. I only surround myself with real people with genuine kindness in their hearts. People that come with no strings attached or drama. I have had my fair share of drama, I survived it and now can only deal with like minded people such as myself that are only here to spread real love and real happiness amongst those that we come in contact with.

All fakers, will be left behind. Let them stew in their own fake lives and misery, while you and I soar with the eagles carrying our realness as protective coats of armor.

Like the old saying goes: "Real recognizes real"... 



................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Passion" ~ "SECRET ADMIRER" *...........

 

Secret Admirer. It's someone that watches you from a distance and notices your every move and adores everything you do without showing you that they do. A secret admirer is someone that checks up on you if it's someone that you know {and can tolerate}. It can be a friend, a friend of a relative, a friend of a friend, your husband, your wife, your girlfriend, your boyfriend, your fiancé, or even your ex-girlfriend or boyfriend. This person comes with no harm most of the time. Just simply waits for the chance to tell you how much they love you or much they miss you. Even how much they want you in their life. It's the people that never come out and say that they admire you, that feel stuck in that admirer purgatory.

Of course, as you see above there is two different types of admirers. I admire more than I am being admired. That's the truth from my POV. If your going to admirer someone at least have your own act together so that once that person knows or eventually finds out that you are their secret admirer, you can present yourself as someone who is worthy of being in their presence and vice versa. I feel that I have my shit together when it comes to whom I admire so when they catch me taking that longer glance over at them they know that I mean business with them, and that she is going home with me tonight.

Now, I am speaking in general speak here but I am simply stating that you must present yourself worthy of being with that person that you admire. I am still blown away by the men that have woman that make other men and even woman question: "what does she see in that guy?" or "what does he see in her?" It's not just looks but a good chunk of this is from the confidence factor.

A person can be super attractive if they are confident in themselves and are giving out a real charismatic positive vibe to the room. I have seen guys that otherwise were not very good looking from a guy {or girl}'s POV that ended up with very attractive girls. And vice versa. It was the confidence. It was the secret admirer in those people that told them that they could be with that woman or be with that man if they play their cards right.

I am a secret admirer now. If you are a secret admirer yourself, don't be afraid to tell that person that you have fallen for them. You will end up happy when you do, because at least you finally got it out that you are watching that person.

Win, lose or draw, you are going to be happy that you said something. It will give you a boost of confidence no matter the outcome of coming out and saying how you feel about the person that you have been admiring.

If that person is not interested then you have the confidence to continue your search. You never know, that person that you told your feelings to, or someone else may just come to you. They might just be, YOUR SECRET ADMIRER :)