~~ * "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "FAKE FRIENDS VS. REAL FRIENDS" * ~~

 

 

Fake Friends VS. Real Friends. All too many times throughout my life, I would say that I have the unfortunate displeasure of having fake friends. Thankfully, however, I have had more real friends that I can count. But, they too showed their true colors and are now considered fake friends.

 

Sometimes, you have to take a very long time in order to find out whom are your real friends and who are the fake friends. For example, I have grown up with a group of friends that are somewhat spilt down the middle as this: The friend that only wants to talk to you if they can talk only about themselves and it's all about them. Then the other group is: the friends that you can lean on a bit for help and cares to be apart of your life.

 

I have a lot of fake friends that are now kept very far away from me. I know for a fact that they don't know anything really about me. The sad part is that they never wanted to know or wanted to ask. They are unsupportive and the same people that I grew up with. They want your support but not willing to return the same gesture. Or you support them because your a good person and they just never give the same in return. Fake Friends? Absolutely!

 

Real Friends. I have a handful. Its the people that if I ever was in trouble or needed help with something, they are there without question. But, that handful is really small to be honest. Less than a handful to be more accurate. I have always prided myself on being a real friend. I always believed that if your around too much then you are taken for granted. But, always be there when it matters the most.

 

My point is that you have to pick and choose your friends carefully. You have to be good at noticing the tendencies of the people that you associate with. If you can live with those traits and still be close friends with someone where no one is getting hurt then you are good. If you have a Fake friend that is destructive with you or without you, that is the person that you must create distance. Either cut out of your life for good or have a very, very safe level of distance. They will bring you down with them if your too close.

 

From the experiences I have had with Friends, I have become more selective who I get close with. As a man, I have realized a long time ago, that I do not need to have a gang of friends around me in order to be a real friend or to stand on my own two feet as a man. I hope that you realize this too for all you fellow men and yes, women.

 

Respect is a huge thing for me as well. If you have respect for someone then that will most likely be mutual and off you go to see if the friendship lasts later on. Having friends is an investment. You have to simply ask yourself: "Do I want to invest in this person or not?", "Why or why not?" you make those decisions then as I said, you go from there.

 

Keep in mind, you want a REAL FRIEND. No FAKE FRIENDS allowed!





* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "PEOPLE I WANT TO PUNCH IN THE FACE" *

 

People I want to punch in the face. Too many to name. Karma is the real punch to the face. It hits harder than any physical damage could ever do. Trust me I know. While, I pack a knockout punch of my own. Karma's is absolutely stronger. I must admit. King Karma, will always rule.

 

There use to be a "list" of people that myself and my old friend would add to every time we encountered someone that was to be dealt with in a harsh and timely fashion. Of course, we were just adding them to a fictional list that no one ever actually got physical beatings from us. It was a list of people that were just not in our good books. For me, that list grew into real life situations that bared real malice towards. Wrong doers as they are called. In my world, they are called hurtful people. People with no purpose but to disrupt my order of comfortable and happy living. They became more targets than I ever imagined. 

 

 

To the point that there are multiple volumes of this fictional but all be it, very real list of wrong doers. Do I act on that aggression and wish physical or emotional harm? No. Karma will handle those bastards and bitches. They will have their own "Dark Passenger" that will whisk them to their land of punishment. I make the list, and karma gets them for me. I stay happy and focused. They stay stuck and miserable. It doesn't change the fact, they are still people I want to punch in the face.

 

If this were a Wrestling match {in many ways it is in all realty: winners and losers}, my tag team partner, Karma will always tag in for the punishment. The finish of the match?..."The winners and still champions!...TEAM KARMA!"

 

Punches to the faces, "boots to asses", and nothing more than smiles and cries...

.....................................* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" ~ "Poison" ~ "LIAR" *.........................................

Liar. "Liar, Liar, pants on fire!". It was an old saying that I use to hear and use on the liars throughout my life. I luckily never became one of those people. I never liked when someone would lie to me. But then again, who would like someone lying to them? No one I would imagine. In particular, I have been lied to from everyone from my parent, my family, my girlfriends of past, my boys, my co-workers and frankly, it was getting to the point where I couldn't trust anyone or believe anyone. I am sure that this has happened to you. It's happened all too often to me. I have one person in my life that has never lied to me to this point. One person out of thousands of people that I have met? What does that tell you?

 

Well, it tells me a lot. That I needed to change my circle of people that were around me. But, you can't choose your relationships sometimes. So it's hard to avoid. I have kept it real with people and it from the most part, was not reciprocated. I have had people use religion as a means to say that they have repented for their poor behaviour towards me, just to turn back to that same person that did the damage in the first place. That's pretty shitty, to use religion as a means to want someone back in their life and then show their true colors again not long after. I have had people say that I pray that you find happiness in your life, when all they ever did was not try to change themselves so that I didn't have to find happiness elsewhere. I could go on but you get my point here. These are liars. The slickest of the slick. I kept it real and they didn't. What again, does that tell you?

 

 

That liars lead you to a path where you have to face "The Big Lie". That being, "does this person really care about me? If so, why lie?" You have to look at yourself first and ask, "Is this the big lie, that I am living? Why do I need these people around me when all they ever do is lie?". I went through this my entire life. I go through this now. But, I have gotten smarter with each passing thought of asking myself this. It's made me less tolerant of people's lies. I have been able to smell a lie, like a fart in church.

 

You can't get it passed me anymore. I have called people out on their lies after I finally stopped questioning myself and the big lie question answered itself. You can't change the people that feel the need to always lie. You can only change yourself and try your best to be less tolerant of these individuals as I have. Change is something that liars fear. Be that fear. Be real and don't lie. You will thank yourself later for it.

...* "Navarro's Poison & Passion" 1st Ever "Poison" Post: "BETRAYAL" *...

 

Betrayal. Throughout my life, I have been betrayed by many people. Some of which were and still are people that were and still are close to me. I trusted them, because, I felt that they were suppose to be individuals that were by relation had to be my closest confidants. I have been wrong with everyone that I have been betrayed by. Poor judgement on my part for believing what was being fed to me. That was my mistake. As the old saying goes: "Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on you. Fool me three times? Not a chance!". Needless to say, I have not been fooled by these purveyors of betrayal a third time. Those people have been left by the wayside. I have no time for games. I have no time for people who were never genuine from the jump. Never again.

 

 

I had hope for many of those that have betrayed me. Hope is what kept me going, long after seeing those betrayers had vanished. I still extended my hand to them despite there being no reciprocation. I checked for people that could care less if I was even still breathing despite not doing anything wrong on my part. It hurt. It still hurts. The good ones get hurt and the bad ones get everything. A process that never sits well with me. I have never betrayed anyone. EVER. The reason? I just never wanted it to ever happen to me. My loyalty has always gotten me the short end of the stick. NEVER AGAIN.

 

 

It's betrayal that it ultimately comes down to. I gave everything that I had and then some to those purveyors of betrayal with no positive outcome. I searched for love and friendships in the wrong places from individuals who were insincere from the start. I found my own way. Blazed my own path holding on to the betrayal as a scar of war from each individual that betrayed me. Girlfriends, Family, Friends, Co-Workers. They all betrayed me.

It became hard for me to trust anyone after so much betrayal. My circle of loved ones is now very small. I have created my own environment and world, that if betrayal creeps it's ugly head again, it wouldn't be hard to tell this time where the betrayal comes from. I guess, it's true that you can never trust a snake not to bite you. I learned my lesson.